What do columns A, B, and C mean on the attachment quiz?

In this questionnaire, column A reflects anxious attachment tendencies, B reflects secure attachment, and C reflects avoidant attachment. The more statements you mark as true in a column, the more that style’s characteristics may show up for you.

What if my scores are high in more than one attachment style?

That is common. Attachment is often described with two dimensions: comfort with intimacy versus avoidance of it, and anxiety about a partner’s love versus feeling at ease. Reading about both relevant styles, or talking with a therapist, can help.

Is this attachment test a diagnosis?

No. This tool is for self-reflection and education only. It is adapted from research-based questionnaires but does not replace professional assessment.

Understand how you connect in love

Take a calm, three-part attachment style quiz inspired by relationship research. See whether your answers lean anxious, secure, or avoidant — with charts that make the pattern easy to read. Many people use this lens to feel less alone in how they attach; it is a starting point, not a label that defines you forever.

For each statement, choose whether it is true for you. If it is not true, choose “Not true for me.” Only “true” answers add a point to that item’s column (A, B, or C).

Part one

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Your attachment pattern

Scoring key: the more statements you marked true in a column, the more that style’s themes may show up for you. A reflects anxious attachment, B reflects secure attachment, and C reflects avoidant attachment.

Style strength (raw counts)

Bar height shows each count relative to your highest column. Numbers below are your true answers per style.

Anxious (A) 0

Secure (B) 0

Avoidant (C) 0

Two dimensions map

Researchers often plot attachment using two axes: anxiety about the relationship (vertical) and discomfort with closeness or “avoidance” (horizontal). Your dot uses the share of true answers in A and C among all true answers (B adds secure-themed items elsewhere on the quiz).

What each style can feel like

Anxious

You may love deep closeness and have a big capacity for intimacy, yet worry your partner does not want to be as close as you do. Relationships can take a lot of emotional energy; small shifts in your partner’s mood may feel personal. With steady reassurance, many people feel calmer and more secure over time.

Secure

Warmth and closeness may feel natural. You can be intimate without constant worry; you tend to express needs and read your partner’s cues. You share highs and lows and show up in hard moments without losing yourself.

Avoidant

Independence and self-sufficiency may matter deeply; too much closeness can feel uncomfortable even when you also want connection. You might not ruminate on the relationship as much, yet partners may wish you opened up more. Under the surface, distance can still be stressful — similar patterns were first studied in how babies reunite with caregivers after separation.

Still not sure? Two dimensions to consider

If several columns look high, it can help to think in two dimensions: your comfort with intimacy and closeness (versus pulling away), and your anxiety about your partner’s love and attention. Secure patterns often sit with lower anxiety and lower avoidance; anxious with more anxiety; avoidant with more avoidance; and a smaller group feels both — then reading about anxious and avoidant patterns can both be useful.

This experience is for learning and self-compassion, not medical or psychological advice. If you are struggling in relationships, a qualified therapist can help you interpret these patterns in context.